Last week I shared how God equates the sin of pornography, the act of uncovering someone’s nakedness with sexual intent, which isn’t ours to see, as theft. (Leviticus 18)
After I’d already written last week’s ‘Thoughts’ there was a news item of interest. Kylie Bisutti, a Victoria Secret lingerie model, quit the lingerie circuit stating: “Growing in my relationship with the Lord and my faith…I just became so convicted about wanting to honor my husband with my body…My body should only be for my husband, and its just a sacred thing.”
A thief makes something that doesn’t belong to him, his own. She understands she had been allowing other men to look at her body when it wasn’t theirs to see, making her body theirs in their imaginations.
As Kylie alluded, (and it goes without saying) lust is behind the theft of seeing someone else’s nakedness. Jesus taught in Matthew 5 to ‘gouge out your eye’ and ‘cut off your hand’ (remove the lust of looking and the thought of taking action on that lust) that leads to that theft. In Kylie’s case, she stopped being the bait that caused men to look and think about taking action of making her body their own.
Lust isn’t only sexual. Through the centuries men and women have plotted to steal thrones, power, wealth, prestige, information, and social standing through sexual conquest. If a man plots to seduce a wealthy widow, the lust for (her) money is the core, not sexual lust. He wants to steal her money to make it his.
When a woman says she wants to marry a rich doctor, the same thing is true. Love may follow, but many marriages are often founded upon lust and theft and have to get their foundations rearranged by the Lord over the course of years, if at all.
Lust is defined as ‘an overmastering desire or craving, uncontrolled or illicit desire.’ It’s more than sexual, and the root of adultery, theft, and coveting (and many lies) is lust for that which belongs to another.
Straight Forward Talk
What is the spiritual reason for not looking at someone else’s sex act? Look at Ephesians 5:25-32: “Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, to make her holy…and present her to Himself as a radiant church…in the same way husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. After all, no one ever hated their own body…This is a profound mystery, but I am talking about Christ and the church.”
Paul is teaching that the act of sex between a husband and wife is an earthly type of the spiritual union of Christ and the church. So adultery and/or sex outside of marriage is a type of being spiritually unfaithful to Christ. In other words, the lust for another is a type and shadow of lusting after another god.
OK…Really Straightforward Here
This is the reason Abraham was required to be circumcised as a sign of being in covenant with God. The act of sex is a type of union with Christ as Paul would later bring out; it isn’t the circumcision of the flesh that makes one united in Christ, but the circumcision of the heart. (Acts 7:8; Romans 2:28-29)
In the OT, when a (circumcised) Jewish man made love to his wife, he saw himself first in covenant and union with God, and consummating the earthly type of that spiritual union with his wife. Do we not also today recognize the spiritual union of husband and wife in the marriage ceremony accompanied by a later consummation of the covenant – the physical expression of a spiritual union? This is why. It’s all about the union of Christ and the church.
As if I Could Get Anymore Straightforward
The act of breaking the woman’s hymen during that first intercourse is (to be) the physical consummation of the spiritual union. Even in Deuteronomy 22:14-17 if a newlywed husband claims his bride is not a virgin, the parents of the young lady can bring the bed sheets from their honeymoon to the elders as proof she was a virgin. (How embarrassing)
The act of sex is the act of consummating a spiritual covenant between them and God. So to look at someone else’s act of sex, or looking on them with sexual intent, is violating the sacredness of that union.
This is why sociologists and psychologists have discovered that people with multiple sex partners become like a piece of tape used over and over – each time it sticks to something and then is pulled away, it loses a little bit of its stickiness for the next time.
Paul describes these people as being “past feeling” in Ephesians 4:17-19. They’ve lost their ‘stickiness’.
Therefore moral excellence isn’t something held in the heart alone, but a quality expressed in life – When one holds these values dear to their heart, the desire to protect their covenant and fellowship with the Lord above all else, they will realize it is theft to see someone’s nakedness that is not theirs to see.
This is why James said in 4:4-5: “You adulterers (like unfaithful wives having illicit love affairs with the world and breaking your marriage vow to God)….Or do you suppose that the Scripture is speaking to no purpose that says: The Spirit Whom He has caused to live in us yearns over us and He yearns for the Spirit (to be welcome) with a jealous love?” (Amplified Bible)
Our world has so cheapened the act of sex, as Satan and man’s lower nature does to all things, turning the beauty of the things of God into the base and carnal, that even Christians don’t always understand the sacredness of sexual union.
Each and every time a husband and wife are joined in sexual union, they are reconfirming the covenant that exists in their hearts, and shadowing a type of the unity and love of Christ and the church. It doesn’t matter whether those times of sexual union are noted for their passion, or just as a spur-of-the-moment thing in fun, it is an affirmation of their vows and a type of Christ and the church.
Dogs have sex, only humans can make love. To turn the making of love into a mere act for the viewing of strangers is to lower oneself and all who participate to the lower nature of mere animals.
But how does a person cut off those thoughts and remain sin free? That is next week, practical steps to avoid pornography – and those steps are also helpful in other areas where we lack self-control. Until then, blessings,